Recognise Yourself First

Recognise Yourself First

Good morning!

Say, “I will come to like people around me.”
“I won’t be controlled by others.”
And attract more and more good things.

So, recently I was asked a question like this;
Of course not all the people think the same way though…
I hope it will be a good reference.

My boss scolds me so hard.
He is quite emotional and always saying that I am not good enough.
I just want him to recognise that I am doing my very best, so I have been struggling. But no chance for me.
What can I do?
How can I build a good relationship

The above situation is very common. The more you desire to be recognised by others, the more distant you are leaving from there.

Here are two important things.

First, people do not praise you just because you are capable.
You will easily notice when you see it from the outside.

For example, here is this person, who is struggling a lot to be big.
But what do you think if s/he is showing off his/her achievement and looking down on other people?
Of course nobody would think s/he is great.

That is, people quickly sense that kind of arrogant mind. Many people actually hate it.

Furthermore, even if you have done a good job, your boss will dislike you when you have bad feeling with him/her. Then you have no chance of promotion!

There is “hell of desire for recognition.”
This is so to speak “the eagerness for fame.”
They essentially want to have self-confidence by receiving a compliment from someone else…
But people around them get tired because they are taking something away from them.

When you are in this situation, you will never get accepted. Definitely not.
You would feel like you are in hell.

No matter how capable you are, you will never get promoted or never be loved if you have no modesty, no appreciation, and no respect to others.

If you want someone to like you, the first thing you need is just to like them rather than to be skilful.
When you appreciate and respect someone, you will be treated well and get recognised in return.

Besides, you might be in “being someone situation” if you care too much about other people’s judgement.

When there are 10 people, you see 10 different thoughts.
Even if most of them vote for one thing, it cannot be always wonderful or right.
Since you are used to be judged by others, you cannot recognise what is good about you. You must be feeling horrible then.

If you are being brown-nosed, wanting to be loved and to be supported, you will be tired after all.

Lately, people say those who get supports win the game, but it is not the real winner, because you cannot win without those supports.

You might not be able to be yourself then.

So, do not judge yourself by someone else’s evaluation or by public image!!

Approve yourself that you are good.
That is so wonderful.
However, if you are not truly loved by your parents, you cannot love yourself and accept what is wonderful about you.
In that case, I recommend you to take The Human Relationship Healing Therapy.

You will not are about what others think of you when you get determined.
Love yourself as much as you can. And you can enjoy any situation.

Then you will see someone likes real you.

That is going be more than 10 times fun!