He Prelude “Harmony” Composed by Conflict”

He Prelude “Harmony” Composed by Conflict”

Good morning!
Let’s go for the heavenly words!
“I will not avoid conflict.”
“I can get along with others.”
And you will go into a positive spiral.

So, as they say,  Japanese people have paid attention to peace in a group.
We have always cared for each other, and tried to get along with them, putting our personality away.
I think that is a great custom.

We have loved peace since childhood. We do not want to argue or have a fight with other people.
If you often feel that way, then you seem to have seen your parents being so hard on you, having a horrible fight with each other, or being foul-mouthed.

When you try not to be like your parents, the instinct for self-preservation you have in your mind starts working and you try to react as gentle as you can,  which brings you a harder, more horrible situation.

Sure you will keep having bad feelings about this, like;
No, this is not exactly what I want…
No, that is not true…
This is no fair, totally unfair…

I cannot tell them this is so rude at this situation…
If I got mad here, they would feel bad…
I have to hold back…
Alright, I won’t say anything!!
Then you pretend that you don’t mind…

But as a matter of fact…,
you will keep blaming the other person like;
He/she said that at this time on this day, LOL

This is happening sometimes.
This might look peaceful from the outside,  but inside, are you really feeling a harmony?
Yes, you successfully avoided having a trouble…
However, a true harmony will be born in conflict.

For example,

“I felt sad to hear that. I didn’t mean it.”
“I didn’t do that. Maybe someone’s mistake.”
“I’m sorry, I don’t really like it.”
“Excuse me, isn’t that a bit rude?”
“Can you not do that?”
…etc.

These are all looking like an argument, with which you truly understand each other, with which other people understand your feelings, and with which you know what they truly think.

You might have a horrible argument one time.
I know that nobody likes having a fight only to tell them what you feel or what you think.

But mind you, this is a great chance to take time and understand each other. This is when you meet the true harmony.

You will not, as long as you avoid this process.
These two opposite ends will finally meet each other.

Conflict is the prelude of harmony.

Look for the true harmony and pay attention to the feelings of both yours and others!!